Proxi He is a direct, grounded coaching tool built on 30 years of Dr. John Schinnerer's work with men. It responds like John would: naming the pattern, asking the sharp question, and giving you something concrete to do next. Available whenever you need it, with no appointments and no waiting.
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3 sessions · 20 messages each · no credit card
What's actually going on
Most men were never given a vocabulary for what they feel. You learned to push through, stay focused, and handle it. And most of the time, that works. But there's a version of stress that doesn't lift when the project ends. A kind of irritability that surprises even you. A disconnection in the relationships that matter most that you can't quite explain or fix by just trying harder.
Those things have names, and they have patterns, and there are concrete things you can do about them. The problem isn't willpower or attitude. It's that no one ever gave you the tools or the language to work with what's actually happening underneath the surface.
Proxi He does that. It meets you where you are, gives you words for what you're carrying, and helps you figure out what to do next. No couch, no waiting room, no explaining your whole history from the beginning. Just the conversation you actually need, when you need it.
Built on real work
John earned his doctorate in psychology from UC Berkeley and has spent 30 years translating research and clinical psychology into tools men can actually use. He consulted on Pixar's Inside Out, coached leaders at Meta, Stanford, Airbnb, and Bank of America, and has taught more than 20,000 students. His micro-courses on anger and forgiveness reached nearly 200,000 listens in their first year.
Proxi He is built on that body of work. Not a generic AI wellness product, but a specific, grounded point of view about what men need and how change actually happens. When you talk to Proxi He, you're working with John's frameworks, his research, and his way of cutting through to what's really going on.
How it works
Every session with Proxi He follows the same structure: you bring what's real, it names what's actually going on, and you leave with something concrete to work with.
Growth you can see
Proxi He is the only coach on the platform with a full progression system built in. Every conversation earns you experience across nine areas of development. As you grow, you move through six levels, earn track badges, and build a visible record of real work.
Nine mastery tracks
Earn XP and unlock badges across stress regulation, anger awareness, emotional intelligence, thought patterns, relationship skills, identity, and more. Your badge gallery fills as you build it.
Growth that compounds
The science of behavior change is clear: consistency matters more than intensity. Proxi He rewards you for showing up regularly, because that's when the real shifts happen and actually stick.
Milestones that mean something
Badges like Zen Master, Relational Hero, and Evolved Man aren't handed out easily. They mark the kind of sustained work that actually changes how you think, feel, and act under pressure.
A record of who you're becoming
Most growth is invisible. The progression system makes it visible, so you can see how far you've come and what you're still building toward. The work shows up. So does the man doing it.
What you'll work on
These aren't abstract topics. They're the patterns that show up in everyday life, in your work, your relationships, and your sense of who you are and where you're going.
In John's words
Not the corporate wellness version. Not generic coaching language with a PhD attached to it. Proxi He is built to respond the way I actually respond in a coaching conversation: naming the pattern you're in, asking the question that cuts through it, and giving you something real to do next. Not a list of suggestions, not a pep talk. Something concrete.
"I've spent 30 years watching men carry things they don't have words for. Most of it isn't weakness. It's a vocabulary problem. Once you have the language, you can actually work with it."
Proxi He isn't a substitute for working with me directly, and I want to be straight about that. But most of the real work doesn't happen in a coaching call. It happens at 11pm on a Tuesday when your mind won't shut off. It happens before the hard conversation you've been avoiding for three days. It happens when something feels off and you can't name it yet. That's what Proxi He is built for.
When you're ready to go deeper, the Group Coaching plan adds live biweekly Zoom calls with me into the mix. Same ecosystem, a different level of human accountability and connection.
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Plans & Pricing
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