Proximity to each other — closing the distance that grows quietly until one day it's a canyon. Created by Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose, LMFT — partners in life and work, who have navigated the hardest parts of a real relationship themselves. Come alone or come together. Every response brings both of their perspectives so the work reaches both of you at once.
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A coaching tool for the in-between
Proxi We is built by Dr. John Schinnerer and Joree Rose — a psychologist, executive coach, and relationship coach who are also partners in a real, imperfect, evolving relationship. It doesn't give scripts or assign blame. It identifies the dynamic, asks the one question that might interrupt the cycle, and offers a reframe that helps both of you see what is actually happening, from the inside rather than above it.
Most couples don't break down in therapy. They break down on a Tuesday night when something small lights the familiar fuse. They go quiet for three days after an argument neither of them can fully reconstruct. They drift, not dramatically but steadily, in the weeks between appointments when no one is holding them to the work. Proxi We is built for those weeks. For the moment before it escalates. For both of you, together or separately, whenever you need a frame.
Built by two people who know this from the inside
John is a psychologist and executive coach with a PhD from UC Berkeley, 30 years of coaching experience, and deep expertise in the neuroscience of emotional regulation, communication, and men's psychology. Joree is a mindfulness teacher, author, and relationship coach whose work has helped thousands of people build more aware, more compassionate inner lives. Between them, they bring more than 50 years of combined clinical and coaching experience to every Proxi We conversation.
They also share their own relationship — and the full weight of what that has required. They met in 2015 after matching on Tinder. Love came easily. Emotional safety did not. Despite years of personal growth and the kind of professional training most people never get, they eventually found themselves caught in the same cycles that quietly erode most relationships: reactivity, withdrawal, the slow accumulation of moments that don't get repaired. After years together and an engagement, they reached a heartbreaking breaking point that led to a temporary separation.
"Awareness alone does not heal relational patterns. We learned that the hard way — and it became the foundation of everything we built."
That breakdown became the breakthrough. They committed to doing the deeper work, not intellectually but through daily relational practice with each other — building the emotional safety, accountability, and repair skills that their combined training had taught them to help others find. They came out the other side with a stronger foundation, clearer tools, and the kind of earned wisdom that only comes from having navigated the hardest terrain together. They were married in November 2025. Proxi We is built from that experience, not around it.
They share their humanity, their repair processes, and their continued self-reflection throughout their coaching, podcasts, and relationship work because they believe authenticity creates safety. People don't need perfect experts with a theory of how couples should work. They need grounded guides who are willing to practice the same tools they teach. Joree and John have been married since November 2025 and the entirety of what Proximity offers is truly based on their lived experience as partners. Their essence bleeds throughout all coaching and resources, making every tool tried and true.
How it works
Proxi We is not a conflict resolution app or a library of relationship tips. It is a conversation that actually responds to what is happening between you, meets you at the level of what is real right now, and brings two distinct perspectives to every exchange.
Two voices in every response
Most coaching tools give you one perspective. Proxi We gives you two — drawn from John and Joree's distinct frameworks, communication styles, and more than fifty years of combined couples work. The masculine and feminine perspectives don't compete. They complete each other, giving you a richer, more dimensional picture of what is happening between you than either lens alone can provide.
John's perspective
Grounded in neuroscience, emotional regulation, and accountability. Identifies the physiological and psychological patterns driving the cycle and names the role each partner's nervous system is playing. Direct, warm, and structured toward growth.
Joree's perspective
Grounded in attachment theory, relational safety, and emotional attunement. Honors the vulnerability underneath the conflict, creates space for what hasn't been said, and orients the conversation toward connection rather than resolution. Warm, precise, and emotionally fluent.
What you'll work on
Not in dramatic ways. In the ways that look manageable on the surface while something essential slowly erodes — often for months or years before either partner can name what has been happening.
An honest answer
If you are in serious pain — yes. A skilled couples therapist is irreplaceable for deep conflict, attachment wounds, or the kind of hurt that has been compounding for years. John and Joree would tell you to go. They mean it. Proxi We is built for a different moment.
Most couples don't break down in therapy.
They break down on a Tuesday night.
It is 10pm and the conversation that started fine is going sideways. It is the third week in a row you have both been distant and neither of you has named it. It is the familiar cycle you both see coming and still can't seem to interrupt before it has already run. Proxi We is built for that gap — not to replace professional support, but to hold the work between sessions, to give you a frame in the moment when you need one, and to make repair more accessible before a pattern calcifies into something that does require professional support.
Many couples use Proxi We alongside professional support; others find it is enough on its own to interrupt the pattern before it escalates. Either way, the awareness it builds between you is the foundation everything else is built on — including the individual mode, which lets one partner do the work even when the other isn't ready yet.
Proxi We is built for
Where couples therapy goes further
Plans & Pricing
Start with AI-only couples coaching or add live biweekly group calls with Dr. John and Joree together. One price covers both partners. All plans are month-to-month with no contracts.
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