Every Proxi coach pairs real-time conversation with a set of practical, on-screen tools — built to use in the actual moment you need them. Here's a look at what's inside, for men, women, and couples.
What you actually get
Most coaching apps give you a chat box and leave the rest to you. Proximity is built differently. Alongside your conversation with your coach, you get visual tools you can open mid-moment — to name what you're feeling, find the right words, repair after a hard conversation, and track how you're changing over time.
Real-time coaching
At the center of every coach is a real conversation — one that meets you in the moment, names the pattern underneath what you said, and gives you something to actually do. Each coach has its own voice: Dr. John's for men, Joree's for women, both together for couples.
A real exchange — the level bar up top, the coach's response, and a tool surfacing right inside the chat.
Joree's voice — naming the loneliness, reflecting it back, and asking the question that opens the next step.
Proxi We — the couples conversation, with its Solo and Shared views — is coming to this section next.
Emotional awareness
Most of us run on a three-word emotional vocabulary: good, fine, mad. Pinpoint opens a guided wheel of 89 emotions across 17 categories — then takes whatever you land on straight into your coaching conversation. Tuned for each coach.
"What are you actually feeling?" — built for men who've been taught to flatten it to three words.
Name it precisely — the first step out of overwhelm and back to what you need.
Find the feeling under the fight — so you can say it instead of fire it.
After it goes sideways
Gottman found it's not how often couples fight that predicts success — it's how well they repair. The Repair Toolkit walks you through it: cool down, listen, validate, acknowledge, repair, reconnect — with the exact words to use at each step.
"How to repair after a fight" — six steps, plus what to actually say when you need to pause.
Come back to connection without abandoning yourself — or the relationship.
A shared script for both partners — so repair becomes something you do together.
In-the-moment language
When emotions are high, the reactive line is right there and the better one is nowhere to be found. Say This Instead swaps the reaction for words that actually work — sorted by situation: with your partner, when you're angry, with your kids, at work.
Swap the reactive response for one that actually lands — by situation.
Words for boundaries, needs, and hard conversations — without shutting down.
Spark real connection
Connection rarely happens by accident. These tools give you a way in — research-backed questions, conversation starters by context, and dozens of ways to show up intentionally.
The research-backed set for increasing closeness — guided, one question at a time.
Pick a context — partner, kids — and surface questions that go past the surface.
66 filterable ideas for showing up intentionally — romantic, low-key, free, creative.
Your home base
Not sure what to bring? Right Now Mode gives you one tap into the six things men wrestle with most — work stress, relationship tension, feeling stuck, anger, can't switch off, a big decision.
And the Daily Pulse turns showing up into a habit — a quick check-in that builds a streak and tracks how your stress and energy move over time.
Track your progress
The work compounds — and Proxi He turns it into something visible. Earn XP and badges across nine Mastery Tracks, build a daily streak, and climb six levels from The Unexamined Man to The Evolved Man. Not points for their own sake — a map of who you're becoming.
The models behind the method
Every tool draws on a deeper model. The in-app Resource Library organizes them by topic, so you can explore the thinking behind the work — from the Inner Leadership Council to nervous-system regulation to the patterns underneath connection.
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For men, women, and couples · Founding Member pricing from $25/mo
Proximity coaching tools are educational and coaching products for personal development. They are not therapy, counseling, medical care, or crisis support, and are not substitutes for licensed mental health professionals. If you are in crisis, please contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988.
